Relationship, Relationship, Relationship

The Heart of a Mature Society, for all adults and in particular those in Educational, Leadership and Management roles:

The sad fact is that fear dominates most people’s lives and leads to them developing all kinds of protectors to reduce the various threats to their wellbeing. Those protective responses in turn pose threats to other people’s wellbeing and a sad cycle of fear is perpetrated. It is the creation of emotional safety that breaks that cycle and leads to conscious relating that begins to meet our deepest need to unconditionally belong and be empowered.

The move from unconscious to conscious relating will only happen when we find the safety to reflect on how we are within ourselves and how, out of that place, we relate with others. A holding world’s (for example, family, school, community, workplaces) wellbeing will depend on the degree to which conflict is resolved. If our inner world is harmonious then we will be better able to live with one another in harmony. It is in this sense that individual consciousness leads to wellbeing in society.

The Parent and Relationship Mentor will offer a safe non-judgmental place for individuals to explore their inner world and the opportunity to bring to consciousness what has lain hidden so that they can become more affective and effective in their various life roles.

Themes include:

Society’s Seven Best-Kept Secrets
Heads of Relationship Holding Worlds
Emotions Call for Motion
Conscious Communication – the Life-Blood of Relationships
Creating Safety through Boundaries
Seeing Conflict as a Creative Opportunity
The Path to Individual Consciousness
The Power of Relationships

The Relationship Mentor will adapt all Courses to the needs of an individual or group, for example, facilitated as a four/eight or ten-week Course or a one to two-hour talk on a key topic and half day or Full day sessions

Co-creational relationship mentoring.

The practise of co-creational relationship mentoring and psychotherapy is founded on a model of human behaviour potential with the goal of assisting individuals in developing a stronger sense of self and developing more conscious relationships with themselves and others from that It is a co-creative approach because it draws on the creativity of both the psychotherapist and the individual seeking help. At its heart, the approach values the uniqueness of the person seeking assistance, acknowledges the person’s unfathomable power, affirms the person’s sacredness and unconditional worth, and responds with awe to the intelligent and creative ways in which a person protects themselves against the protective behaviours of others. The co-creational psychotherapist seeks to understand the protective behaviour displayed by the individual seeking help and to provide a safe space for the individual seeking help to bring what is hidden—one’s true self—to consciousness.

The Self is at the centre of all the processes we go through as we engage in the networks of relationships that make up our various holding worlds as we

progress through life from birth to death. The screen self may be seen as the accumulation of all the unconscious protective strategies that we use to manage threat and ward off further threat. According to Gabor Mate, what we call personality is often a jumble of genuine traits and adopted coping styles that do not reflect our true self at all but rather the loss of it . When there is conscious holding of our precious presence and conscious responsiveness to the maintenance of our wellbeing, then we can afford to live rather than simply survive. Winnicott hits the nail on the head when he says that it was a joy to be hidden, but a disaster not to be found . Ruddle says that when unconditional love is enduringly present, the self-basks in its light and expresses itself fully without the need for subterfuge or substitute behaviours.

Co-creational relationship mentoring foundational truths.

I am a unique, Sacred, and Precious Presence in the World, Unconditionally worthy of Loving Response.
My Loving Wisdom is Always Present.
My Protectors are my solutions to threatening terrifying relationship interactions.
I always am where I need to be.
I am always a Creator never a Victim.
My felt experience is the most important information in guiding my life.
The key to communication is communicating with myself.
The ultimate safe holding is within myself